A couple of weeks ago I talked about the accountability group I've been a part of for the past nine years. While our group has seen many changes thru the years one of the things that has remained (pretty much) the same is the list of questions we can, and do, ask of each other. These questions have been part of the glue that has held us together.

Giving someone permission to ask questions we'd often rather avoid can be quite intimidating! But part of setting up healthy boundaries in our lives is having a healthy support system to, well, support us! That's what loving accountability will do. It will support you thru a storm, thru a valley, and even thru a graduation party (or two...or more!...I hope =)

The questions keep us focused on what it really important - on the big picture - in our lives. And often the stuff that is making us crazy is doing so because we've gotten out of focus.

So what are these questions that "bind us together" like glue; set healthy boundaries; support us; and keep us focused? I'm glad you asked!
Questions for Accountability:

1. Have I been a verbal testimony to Christ?
2. Have I spent adequate time in prayer and reading God's Word?
3. Have I seen any sexually explicit material that will damage my relationship with my husband or Christ?
4. Have I spent money recklessly? Have I demonstrated good stewardship?
5. Have I intentionally honored my husband and children?
6. Have I damaged another with my words?
7. Have I given in to an addiction in my life?
8. Have I remained angry towards another?
9. Have I wished misfortune or hardship on anyone?
10. Have I been totally honest today?

I've added another one to my list - "Have I allowed any person or circumstance to rob me of my joy?"

Fortunately these questions are not a test, it's not pass/fail, but they are a healthy reminder of what matters most. And isn't that what we all want in our lives? To take care of the things that matter most, to enjoy all that God has blessed us with, to, as the sign in my house says, "Live Well, Laugh Often, Love Much".

Until next time...
Beth

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